Q & A Time: Is it love?

"Do you know when its love when you feel connected to a person?

Is it possible to love someone, and to be infatuated with someone all at the same time.?

Is it love when you see a future together - forever?"

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I'm guessing you like a guy right now, probably a boyfriend, and he has told you he loves you yet you either don't believe him or question your own thoughts on what true love is (which explains why you wouldn't believe him). That is why your asking questions about love, trying to understand it's boundaries, where does it lie. When does it cross liking to loving someone? With you holding off on the thoughts of love you have low trust in your partners, or people for that matter, are uncomfortable with intimacy, and you really value your independence.

Q & A Time: Women Cause Divorces

"Why are there so many divorces?

answer: 2 reasons
a. because women dont know what they want--so they marry the first guy who asks them who they really dont like. so it ultimitaly ends in divorce
b. rich guys -whom women marry to get half his trustfund

simply put--women dont know what they really want"

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Oh yes, because ALL divorces are one parties' fault. It takes two to get married, two to get a divorce. 

Women are at fault just as much as men are. If women are so stupid and get into dumb relationships, why do such upstanding, intelligent men marry them? Because they're just as idiotic.

Don't exempt one sex just because you're on the same team you stereotypical, sexist bastard.


P.S. Don't ask a question if you're not looking for an answer.

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I got this question off of Yahoo Answers!  This guy is such an idiot I had to respond.  Usually, I don't waste my time with incompetent people, but he was just asking for it.  Guys, please don't think like this.  Ladies, do not get involved with a man who thinks like this.

Q & A Time: She wants to look through his cell phone

"Am I wrong to want to look through his cell?  I love my husband. I'll admit that I feel like he hides things from me. I believe he likes attention. He was a ladies man in high school. But we are not in high school anymore and I know I need to let the past go.

Once when we were dating I found a text in his phone that said "wanna F***?". I asked him about it and he said that the girl got his number from a friend and he never talks to her and would tell her not to text him again. I trusted him that he would do that. But since then, I've never fully felt secure that he wouldn't talk to another girl. I know it's silly but I have this urge to look through his phone. I tried to be upfront about it but when I do he gets angry and defensive. I know it's sad but it makes me want to check it more, like it almost confirms that he is hiding something from me. When he lets me look at his phone he deletes everything out of it just to spite me. I found a dirty movie on his old phone, but I'm not sure that is the extent of what he is hiding. I checked the phone bill and he texts 4 numbers every day, one time 40 times in 3 hours! I am thinking of looking through his phone while he's asleep tonight... am I crazy?"

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I give your relationship 6 months before he dumps you.

Why? Because you don't trust him. "Yes I do!! I really do. I just, sometimes... you know, not sure if he talks to other women on his phone." Bullshit. Don't give me that. You either trust him or you don't. If you don't, your relationship's end is inevitable. 

You know why he gets angry and upset? Because you don't trust him. What if he wanted t constantly check your phone for messages from other guys, check your e-mails, facebook. You'd be offended because you would see it as utterly pointless for him to check, since nothing was going on. That's how he feels. He's angry you don't have faith in the one person you're supposed to.

If you can't learn to trust him and get over your insecurities and actually believe you are the best thing that has happened to him, then he will leave you for someone who does trust him.

Gay Marriage Ruling in California

So the California Supreme Court ruled in favor of upholding the ruling of Proposition 8.  What does that mean?  The sanctity of marriage has been reversed back to the 24-hour drive-thru chapels in Las Vegas and The Bachelor.  At least they had enough sense to continue to see the 18,000 gay marriages as legal since they took place in a magical time when anyone could get married.  

NNNOOOOOOO!!!! I don’t even get!!?!? Gay people are cool. I think they should have a law that douchebags can’t get married. “Oh, what? You openly admitted your a douchebag? You’re out of the military and can’t get married.” You know why that law wouldn’t be passed? Because the people who would write it are douchebags themselves. If at least half half of CA Supreme Court was gay, prop 8 would have been rejected from day 1. This is ridiculous. And I live in the bay area, so I’m saddened by the incompetence of our “Supreme” Court.

A Clip From Cosmo: "Good Things to Say to Her"

In Cosmo's March '09 magazine, I found a good article: "Cosmo for Your Guy: Good Things to Say to Her" by Mina Azodi (cool name).  In the article, Mina gives four good sayings a man should express to his girl.  I won't bore you with the other three since I already know them, but the last one caught my attention:

⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯

"'I love you because...'

Just dropping the L word may seem like 

enough of a romantic gesture to you, but 

sometimes, she's wondering, Why?  

It's not that she can't think of any reasons 

you'd be into her⎯it's just that your girl-

friend sometimes likes to hear you put 

them into words.  'The more specific you 

are in your explanation, the better,' [Barton] 

Goldsmith says.  'Men don't do that nearly 

enough, which is why women often end up 

fishing for compliments.'"

⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯

I think this holds truth for both parties.  People love to know why they're loved.  So start specifying!

YouTube: Spittin' Game

On June 5, 2007, me and my two best friends (who shall remain namelessly RiRaY and ReNo) did a video on how to spit game.  We call ourselves the Three Filipinos.  Enjoy.

Q & A Time: Angry woman wants to hurt married man

"I fell in love with a married man who swears he and his wife agreed they would go "on their separate ways", but he never can commit to when. So, it's pretty obvious after so many years that he is not going anywhere. Now, I am having an incredibly hard time moving on even though I have many interested guys...I just can't get my mind off of how he could do this to me. I want him to suffer too. Should I introduce myself to his wife?"

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Well, the guy's obviously an ass for lying to you. A part of him wanted to be with you, but in the end he just couldn't give up his wife. Now, that's great for their marriage, but bad for you. 

"I want him to suffer too. Should I introduce myself to his wife?"
No. Absolutely not. I know you're suffering immensely, but why continue to make other people hurt? By you going on a vendetta against him, you'll never be satisfied. Since hurt can't be measured, you'll just keep hurting him. And let's say you really hurt him--he loses his wife, loses his house, gets in a car accident because he wasn't paying attention on the road being so depressed about his wife and house. If that really makes you happy and not sad and feel regret for the guy (even though he may deserve it), then you're no better than him. In fact, your worse. 

Let's say you did introduce yourself to his wife. Who's to say she won't go psycho-bitch on your ass? She could get her friends to come after you. And not just physically, they could go on their own vendetta against you and tarnish your name, key your car, whatever. Maybe he too could be angry for what you did, and after you're done with your perception of "closure" he may come after you as well. You really don't want to continue the pain, it needs to stop with you.

Besides, spending your time plotting how to hurt him as bad as you've been hurt in a way to feel better about yourself is a really dumb idea. You're only fueling the anger and pain within you and making yourself even more miserable than you feel now. By hurting him, you won't be helping yourself at all. You won't get closure. You won't be happier. You won't feel better. Just let it go. He's not worth your happiness. 

I know it sucks.. a lot!, but you've got to be the bigger person. Stop thinking about him and let it go. It will not make you feel better by trying to hurt another person, it will only continue the cycle of violence. You're better than that. You know you're better than that.


~ Anthony

[NEW!] 100 words: Late night phone calls

Hmm, let's see.  I'm starting a new segment where I get 100 words to talk about whatever I want.  I've already wasted twenty-four words, so here it goes.

Late night phone calls.  Sure they seem all well and good from the women's perspective, but us guys haven't had years of training like you women have.  For a woman, talking on the phone just before bedtime for an hour plus can seem appealing (to some women, not all of you would enjoy that), but for a lot of guys we just want to go to bed.  

Reduce to nine minutes.

Women who are themselves

I know, I know, it's cliche.  "Guys really want a girl to be themselves, blah blah blah."  I get it.  But it really is true.  (on a side know, I hate when people say, "I know it's cliche, but it's really true."  Because by saying that, it in itself has become the new cliche.  I only said it to show you what I mean.  Okay, let's continue!)  Girls are constantly bombarded with why they aren't good enough.  Magazine articles about make up, commercials with really attractive women sitting on a white couch in their pajamies talking about how their hair feels smooth and shiny, the internet constantly filled with perfect breasts and ass, and models on the Victoria Secret runway.  Geez, we guys don't have to deal with that, we just get to enjoy it =) 

The truth is, you women have it hard.  Physically it doesn't seem to matter what you do to change, they'll always be one more shade of eyeliner or one more botox injection to make you closer to perfection.  But based off who's expectations?  Sure men want women to look good, but so do companies and the media who sell you this crap.  If they told you you are good just the way you are, they would lose billions!  It's like the oil companies supporting fuel efficient cars--it is not in their best interest.

Women who can filter out messages of being imperfect shows their inner strength and allows them to be themselves.  A woman who acts herself makes an average looking girl a 10 out of 10.  For example, Olivia Munn.  Don't get me wrong, she's hot on her own merit.  BUT!  Considering Maxim's Hot 100 List ranked her 96 this year, I think if they took her personality into account she would be number 1.  Olivia does not care what people think, she acts the way she finds comfortable.  She's extremely comfortable with her sexuality (which, by the way, couldn't turn on a man more since so many women aren't comfortable at least talking about it in public).  She's not afraid to talk about "vagina juices" or swear to make a humorous point  or even go as far as take ten shots of Chalula hot sauce in an attempt to beat Kevin Pereira at a contest (she lost by one).  It's her personality that allows her to essentially not give a fuck and just be herself.  She's not trying to be something she's not, she's only be who she is.  And that is all a man can ask for.

Q & A Time: He's Thinking Of Cheating

"I have never been the kind of guy to cheat. But recently, a co-worker of mine and I have developed something special. I find myself finding it more and more difficult to hide my feelings for her. There is obviously some sort of strong connection there, but on the other hand, my girlfriend and I are in love. How can I love someone yet have feelings for someone else? I am mad at myself for this, yet I cannot help how I feel. Should I act on it? What should I do?"

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Well Russell, aren't you in a tussle? 

What you're wondering is will it work with this co-worker? I'm curious if you love your girlfriend of six months, a year, but the romance and bedroom time have fizzled. So, you get excitement from your co-worker because she respects you and thinks you're wonderful. I'm sure she compliments you, loves your ideas--makes you feel like a real man. If you've been in your relationship with your girlfriend long enough, she may take you for granted and doesn't compliment you enough like she used to. So, you love your girlfriend, but this co-worker gets your engine running.

I hate to break it to you, but if you leave your girlfriend this co-worker will eventually stop complimenting you, making you feel like you're the world to her, and you'll be stuck in the same rut as with your current girlfriend. 

My advice: You need to talk to your girl and tell her that you've felt underappreciated and wish she'd compliment you more. I'm willing to bet she feels the same but won't admit it. If there's also a sizzled sex life, go online and try different moves. Bring toys into the bedroom or see a sex therapist. 

If you have a hard time fixing the relationship on your own, I recommend seeing a couples counselor to make sure you're getting what you need out of the relationship. I don't recommend bailing out without attempting to work on it first; otherwise you're doomed to repeat yourself.

RiRaY: The Trouble with Sex in Relationships

By Justin Riray

Why is it that the sex can turn the perfect woman into Jekyll and Hyde?

It seems to me that the majority of relationships between a man and woman, or even, girl and boy, by today’s standards, start off flawlessly.

They love each other more than life itself. They always want to be together. They spend way too much time, money, and energy together.

Everything plays out just like a fairytale.

Then it happens. Sex.

All of a sudden, women get mad about everything.

I admit I am exaggerating, but not that much.

I have heard that a chemical is released into women’s brains over the course of time. The more sex they have with a man, the more they fall in love.

Guys don’t get that chemical.

This is the science behind why most guys can have sex without feelings, but only a small percentage of women can.

When women begin to fall in love they become more possessive and obsessive.

First the women get angry about how their boyfriend talks to or hang around with other girls, even if the girls have been their close friends for many years.

Then the girls say that the guys don’t give them enough time and that they spend too much time with their friends, or family, or they work or go to school too much.

So the relationship that was made in heaven begins to go up in flames.

Both the man and woman become stressed at each other and fight or argue more than weekly.

I just wish that sex wouldn’t change relationships, because sex is great, but the emotional consequences aren’t.