Q & A Time: She wants to look through his cell phone

"Am I wrong to want to look through his cell?  I love my husband. I'll admit that I feel like he hides things from me. I believe he likes attention. He was a ladies man in high school. But we are not in high school anymore and I know I need to let the past go.

Once when we were dating I found a text in his phone that said "wanna F***?". I asked him about it and he said that the girl got his number from a friend and he never talks to her and would tell her not to text him again. I trusted him that he would do that. But since then, I've never fully felt secure that he wouldn't talk to another girl. I know it's silly but I have this urge to look through his phone. I tried to be upfront about it but when I do he gets angry and defensive. I know it's sad but it makes me want to check it more, like it almost confirms that he is hiding something from me. When he lets me look at his phone he deletes everything out of it just to spite me. I found a dirty movie on his old phone, but I'm not sure that is the extent of what he is hiding. I checked the phone bill and he texts 4 numbers every day, one time 40 times in 3 hours! I am thinking of looking through his phone while he's asleep tonight... am I crazy?"

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I give your relationship 6 months before he dumps you.

Why? Because you don't trust him. "Yes I do!! I really do. I just, sometimes... you know, not sure if he talks to other women on his phone." Bullshit. Don't give me that. You either trust him or you don't. If you don't, your relationship's end is inevitable. 

You know why he gets angry and upset? Because you don't trust him. What if he wanted t constantly check your phone for messages from other guys, check your e-mails, facebook. You'd be offended because you would see it as utterly pointless for him to check, since nothing was going on. That's how he feels. He's angry you don't have faith in the one person you're supposed to.

If you can't learn to trust him and get over your insecurities and actually believe you are the best thing that has happened to him, then he will leave you for someone who does trust him.