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Wow, that sucks for you. Here you are minding your own business, and thrown into this moral dilemma. Sorry about that.
But since you have to deal with it, let's look at your options:
1) You don't tell her.
2) You do tell her.
3) Pay someone else to tell her.
Ha ha, okay, okay. You need a bit more detail than that.
1) By not telling her, the lie continues. Her husband keeps cheating, she continues her nieve belief that her marriage is all rainbows and unicorns, and the kids grow up confused why daddy gives the neighbor CPR when mommy's not around. So if you're okay with that, then that's your call. I won't think more or less than you.
There's also the chance you don't tell her, and she finds out a couple months or years later, and is heartbroken. At first she's angry at her husband, but then at you for not telling her about it. She'll feel betrayed by two people.
2) By telling her, at first she'll most likely inappropriately direct her anger at her husband towards you. She may even go into denial and accuse you of being crazy because she can't face the possible truth that her husband is having an affair with the girl next door. After a couple days or weeks, she will be grateful you let her know so she can deal with her broken marriage. She'll realize it's better she knows now than five years from now, coming home from work early to have lunch with her husband only to find that her husband has already had his fill with the neighbor.
In my opinion, I say tell her. She'll be really hurt by it, but she'll thank you for it. You have to ask yourself, would you want to know?
~ Anthony
But since you have to deal with it, let's look at your options:
1) You don't tell her.
2) You do tell her.
3) Pay someone else to tell her.
Ha ha, okay, okay. You need a bit more detail than that.
1) By not telling her, the lie continues. Her husband keeps cheating, she continues her nieve belief that her marriage is all rainbows and unicorns, and the kids grow up confused why daddy gives the neighbor CPR when mommy's not around. So if you're okay with that, then that's your call. I won't think more or less than you.
There's also the chance you don't tell her, and she finds out a couple months or years later, and is heartbroken. At first she's angry at her husband, but then at you for not telling her about it. She'll feel betrayed by two people.
2) By telling her, at first she'll most likely inappropriately direct her anger at her husband towards you. She may even go into denial and accuse you of being crazy because she can't face the possible truth that her husband is having an affair with the girl next door. After a couple days or weeks, she will be grateful you let her know so she can deal with her broken marriage. She'll realize it's better she knows now than five years from now, coming home from work early to have lunch with her husband only to find that her husband has already had his fill with the neighbor.
In my opinion, I say tell her. She'll be really hurt by it, but she'll thank you for it. You have to ask yourself, would you want to know?
~ Anthony
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