Q & A Time: "My husband seems to be re-living his 20's again....yikes!"

"My husband recently befriended a new colleague at work that I really don't care for. My husband is 41 years old and his new friend Chad is 25 and unmarried. My husband has always acted a lot younger than his age and I always tease him that he has Peter Pan syndrome. I don't believe that Chad is a good influence on my husband. They have been going out to the bars together and supposedly my husband has been helping him find some dates. Well, Chad is a very good looking young man, so I don't think he needs my 41 year old husbands help...LOL! My husband seems to be re-living his 20's again....yikes! Is he going through a mid-life crisis? I am worried that he is going to find someone younger and he will leave me. How should I confront my husband about this? I know he is a grown man and he should be able to choose his own friends, but I feel this is ruining our relationship."

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"I feel this is ruining our relationship."

Actually, it's ruining YOUR relationship with him. Since you haven't brought this up with him, he thinks your relationship is as great as ever!

Your husband may be going through a midlife crisis, but you have known that he acts a lot younger than his age, so maybe hanging out with twenty-five year old colleagues is a natural extension of his personality. You seem concerned he's going to leave you for some hussy he finds at a bar while trying to hook up Chad, but I wouldn't worry about that. One a side note, just because Chad is handsome, it doesn't mean he has no trouble meeting women (or at least a good woman). He could be really shy or doesn't know what to say (and that's where your husband comes in). Back to why you shouldn't be worried...

Your husband loves you. Even if he is going through a midlife crisis (not sure that he is), I would talk to him about how you're feeling. Tell him you're worried he'll leave you for some coyote ugly and that makes you scared. I'm sure he'll calm your nerves by letting you know he is only having fun hanging out with a co-worker, and has no plans now or ever to leave you because you are the on for him.

After a heart to heart talk with your husband, you'll be feeling better in no time!


~ Anthony